The research behind the happy face phenomena proves we gravitate to those who look happy. When you are at a party or in a bar, you will find that more men approach a woman who is smiling rather than a drop-dead gorgeous woman who has a bitchy look about her.
The same goes for individuals who are married and interacting in the same house together. You exude energy from the thoughts that are dancing through your mind and that internal dialogue greatly affects your body language and facial gestures.
These physical cues are what those watching and interacting with you pick up on and in turn what can make them feel either uplifted or depleted. Thus, it benefits everyone if you kick your fear-based thoughts to the curb. One of those things is taking care of your body. Most of my matchmaking clients are looking for a partner who is physically fit.
However, many of them are also happy if their potential match is simply starting to make their physical fitness a priority; the desire to improve oneself is what matters most. So work on your appearance from the inside and outside. If you are already in a relationship, as the saying goes, what you did to get your partner, you will need to continue doing, if not four times more, to keep them happily in your life. Once in a partnership by no means are you off the hook, in fact it is more important than ever for you to continue working on yourself for your self-esteem, your health, and to continue triggering the dopamine receptors of your partner when they look at you.
This is a key ingredient in passionate and thriving relationships. As you can tell, much of flirting starts way before the physical act of connecting with others occurs. If you have taken time to get into a positive state of mind, dismissed all negative thoughts, are beaming with an authentic smile, and are well put together physically you are ready to start.
Significant eye play is essential in the art of flirting. In particular, it is the left eye that makes the best impression. Why the left eye you ask?
When you engage in a gaze with someone utilizing your left eye you are tapping into the right side of your brain allowing you to access your full emotive self. With a left eye to left eye gaze, your mind will concentrate on where there is synergy and how you can work together. By gradually turning your face to the right, even by percent, your left eye becomes more dominant. When you gaze at someone with your left eye, the corners of your mouth and the wrinkles around your eyes soften making the person you are looking at feel more at ease.
Success in flirting resides in your ability to put the recipient of your flirt at ease. If you gaze from right eye to right eye, it activates the left side of the brain, the side that analyzes, picks things apart, and looks for ways to get something out of the person or situation.
Your facial expressions harden and become more intense. I call this the used car salesman gaze. Subconsciously, it makes the other person uncomfortable. This may be good as a tactic for hardcore negotiation but not for the art of flirting. The Conversation Start a conversation, not a fire. Post with kindness.
Please review and accept these changes below to continue using the website. We use cookies to ensure the best experience for you on our website. Having a good flirt reminds you of all the things you find sexy and desirable about them, which makes your relationship even stronger. Flirting, whether it's explicit or not, gets the mind thinking about sex.
That slow build up and anticipation will make sex even better. So it has the double benefit of helping the emotional and sexual parts of your relationship— and even bridges the gap between the two.
In the early days, there's so much flirting. It's a great bonding experience — you're both putting yourselves out there, and there's a weird mix of silly and sexy that comes with flirting.
By flirting throughout the relationship, you can keep the spark alive. If you're in a long-term relationship, ruts are bound to come up. You've known each other so long and had every type of sex there is, so it's easy to let the flame die when you're feeling tired or not in the mood. But you shouldn't panic, instead just know that flirting is a great way to help your way out of them.
And I mean that in the most L'Oreal of ways.
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